tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post115323318691043904..comments2023-10-24T03:48:17.089-04:00Comments on Does Every Woman Have an Eating Disorder?: Book Clubdrstaceynyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11698974154886393241noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153977734386385982006-07-27T01:22:00.000-04:002006-07-27T01:22:00.000-04:00Here is one of Judith Moore’s obits, Dr. Stacey<A HREF="”" REL="nofollow" HTTP://WWW.LATIMES.COM/NEWS/PRINTEDITION/CALIFORNIA/LA-ME-MOORE29MAY29,1,7201272.STORY?COLL="la-headlines-pe-california”">Here</A> is one of Judith Moore’s obits, Dr. StaceyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153835711101144232006-07-25T09:55:00.000-04:002006-07-25T09:55:00.000-04:00m--you actually just alerted me that she had died....m--you actually just alerted me that she had died. I didn't know. . . .<BR/><BR/>No, no, nothing too profound in my last statement--I'm just saying that b/c it's really abt self-acceptance/hatred, which seems to remain fairly constant (at any weight, as you and Kristi note), it's really NOT abt the body.drstaceynyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11698974154886393241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153722953477836902006-07-24T02:35:00.000-04:002006-07-24T02:35:00.000-04:00Dr. Stacey - Nail, hammer, bang.I thought on first...Dr. Stacey - <BR/><BR/>Nail, hammer, bang.<BR/><BR/>I thought on first reading that it was just important in an ancillary way that Judith Moore was fat; this was a woman who just hated herself.<BR/><BR/>Do you notice that even though she has (well, had, before she passed) a family of her own and a fairly flourishing career, she rarely talked about those?<BR/>I had a similar experience to Kristi; I'm "NYC/Hollywood fat" now (I wear size 10 or 12; I'm really careful not to say I AM one or the other), but I was an anorexic dancer in college -- having been told by the dance company director that I moved well, but I just <I> had </I> to take off some weight before she could let me in the company -- and I was a fat little kid. <BR/><BR/>I didn't feel ANY DIFFERENT at any weight. The only thing that really changed is other people's reactions (except my doctors; I've been tired since I was 12 and they really don't seem to give a damn other than chalking it up to "overachiever" exhaustion.)<BR/><BR/>"It could also be written by someone with a beautiful figure, because as you know, just as it’s not about someone else’s body, it’s also really not about yours."<BR/><BR/>This is way too profound. I'm going to be thinking about this for days. If it's not about our bodies, what IS it about?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153341292765386662006-07-19T16:34:00.000-04:002006-07-19T16:34:00.000-04:00Kristi--I like what you write, and it'll be intere...Kristi--I like what you write, and it'll be interesting to see where you go from here (we'll stay tuned on your blog!)<BR/>Thanks for the feedback, PTC, WTR, and AS.<BR/><BR/>HS--welcome and thank you (for the compliment and the dose of irony) ; )<BR/><BR/>Beth--so, as you imply, it's really not about the calories or the weight (that IS pretty simple, when it comes down to it). There is, beneath the simplicity many deeper, more difficult issues.drstaceynyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11698974154886393241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153306958691828522006-07-19T07:02:00.000-04:002006-07-19T07:02:00.000-04:00Yes, thin people often unkindly dismiss or feel so...Yes, thin people often unkindly dismiss or feel sorry for fat people. I can generally say that I think fat people are mentally weak and not as smart as their(only if equal in all other areas)thinner peers. Years ago, when I first began dieting and lost a few pounds, I wondered how anyone could remain overweight when counting calories or making sacrifices was so simple. After years of weight gains and loss, and now having a life controlled by food, I know that simplicity is only the numbers. Calories and our weight are simple in a quantitative sense. When these issues, along with food, flood anyone's thoughts, they impose a state of mental weakness. If this is the case for a thin person struggling to maintain their figure, a bulimic obsessed with eating, or a fat person, they are all on an equal level inadequacy. The beautiful, enviable ones are not the fat who preach fat acceptance or the thin who live for dieting, but the average (whatever their weight) who are guided by family, god, learning, joy, and purpose.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11413985115409945728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153278267208285402006-07-18T23:04:00.000-04:002006-07-18T23:04:00.000-04:00I just found your blog today. Actually, I was ref...I just found your blog today. Actually, I was referred to it on -of all places- a Weight Watchers message board. I just cancelled my Weight Watchers online membership I'm tired of dieting, and I'm not going to do it anymore. Thanks for making such a great blog.HaileySqueekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03947993664376385470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153261428284323982006-07-18T18:23:00.000-04:002006-07-18T18:23:00.000-04:00I agree with the last thought. I could have writte...I agree with the last thought. <BR/><BR/>I could have written/thought the last paragraph by Moore at most points and (even some days still) since I was about 15.wading through recoveryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06883839553194390452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153257015368996312006-07-18T17:10:00.000-04:002006-07-18T17:10:00.000-04:00I have more to write on this, and have been meanin...I have more to write on this, and have been meaning to on my blog, but I totally agree. I have been very skinny (aah, the anorexic college years) and have been not-so-skinny, and at both weights, I've always felt too fat, too ugly. That's why I've come to the conclusion that I'm not sure it's dieting and losing weight that will ever change how I feel. I think it's going to have to come from changing the way I look at and think of myself, and it has to come from a more loving, caring place.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27277534.post-1153255110568470922006-07-18T16:38:00.000-04:002006-07-18T16:38:00.000-04:00That last sentence may provoke some thoughts for m...That last sentence may provoke some thoughts for many people. Shame on you drstacey!! (just kidding).<BR/><BR/>Another good post.PTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05377666179155825301noreply@blogger.com