Tuesday, May 30, 2006

Baby Weight

A friend's infant recently had trouble keeping food down. Failing to gain weight, she was diagnosed with gastro-intestinal reflux disease and eventually prescribed medication. As the medicine started to take its effect, the baby held on to her meals and began to gain weight, and celebrations of her newfound pudge ensued.

I realized that this is the last time in this girl's life that we'll delight in her weight. Too soon, any excess poundage will be accompanied by frowns, pity, and prescriptions to take it off. When she starts school, we'll tell her that she'll make friends a little more easily, and get teased a little less frequently, if she just loses some weight. As she gets older, we'll insist that if she diets, she'll have the boy/guy/man of her dreams. And, throughout her life, we'll note that she's just five pounds away from feeling better about herself.

And I wonder, if we'll ever remember the time when we reveled in the chubbiness of her infant thighs.

6 comments:

Haley-O said...

hmm...so true. My baby is not too pudgy and not skinny--just the "perfect" medium. But my friend's baby girl is humungous--well, was. Now, she seems to have lost her baby pudge and is slimming down into a toddler. My friend said, "aww, I loved the fat!" --meanwhile, she herself has struggled struggled with every diet available and is always saying "ugh I'm so fat", "I'm nauseous," "I feel so big." I keep telling her to keep mum about it in front of her girls, at least....

drstaceyny said...

Good for you! However, children pick up on nonverbals as well (the restricting, the frequent weighing/mirror-checking). These things are hard NOT to pass on--yet another reason to move toward self-acceptance.

And, for the record, your daughter is ADORABLE!

allisonsky said...

Dr. Stacey,

I will say that whenever I took my son out (around 9 months to a year) people would always say "does he eat much? and laugh because they all were making fun of him being "fat". The Doctor even told me he could lose a pound or few. In my eyes he was a healthy baby, and I was right. Because, now at 2 everyone comments about how he "slimmed down" and how he looks great. What people don't seem to realize that are weight obsessed is that babies are healthy pudgy. While they crawl and walk off their baby fat,the fat works well as a cushion when crawling, walking, and falling. So even while my son was to young to know what people were saying he was already being judged on his weight. (I live in Palm Beach County where everyone is weight obsessed like Holly Wood.

PalmTreeChick said...
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PalmTreeChick said...

Allisonsky, I LOVE Palm Beach!! I was down there a few months ago. Sat my butt on Juno Beach everyday. Love the beach and palm trees too!!

(Sorry this post doesn't relate to your site drstacey).

Haley-O said...

Thank you, Dr Stacey, for the compliment about my daughter! :)

And, yeah, we have to think about nonverbals, too--they're as powerful as verbals! Thanks for reminding me!